Julie,

We were introduced by a mutual friend and actually the first time I asked her out, she said no! Said she had to put up her Christmas tree that night believe it or not. :p I forgot to tell you to tell your son that persistence might be involved! I saw her out at a club about a month later, asked her out again and the rest is history as they say.

Thanks MBS! I can't tell you how many people I know who are happily married had a similar start to yours.

My son is working on his male-female social skills and has joined a young persons bible study group where there are some nice young women his age...he has hopes!

Kirk,

I'm not measuring my worth on past, present or future girlfriends and I don't think that's what Julie's son is doing either. I'm just relating a personal story because I've been where Julie's son is now and I wanted him to know that it can all work out for him. He can have a long term comitted relationship with somebody if that's what he wants and values in life.

I really can't give you an answer as to why I value relationships above other things. I just do. It's something I just know.

I don't suffer from any real depression. I'm on prozac for a TINY BIT though.

Some people like being single and some people like being in relationships. Some people like theater and some people like TV. It's as simple as that. The important thing is to have the opportunity and confidence to pursue those things that are important to you and I am glad Julie's son is working on gaining that confidence!

Julie - I am interested in learning more of about these vitamin and mineral deficiencies of which you speak. But it always seems really complicated to me. Is there a blood test or saliva test you can take that quickly and easily pinpoints what you are deficient in?

I was "in a relationship" for a week once, but basically all I did that whole time was make excuses not to see the person involved, which made them upset, but it wasn't that I didn't like them, its just that they would ring me up and expect me to go spend time with them, they'd come up to me in school and ask to go do things after school and I want to go home after school and relax not spend time with people.

Linda,

Doing this the right way is not a quick fix, but it has the most amazing results. He no longer has ANY of the peripheral issues that can come with AS like anxiety, sleeplessness, mental illness-like behaviors, depression, aggression, etc.

There are several tests to take to find which particular deficiencies each person has and which food sensitivities they have...it really comes down to being a metabolic issue aside from the different hardwiring of the brain.

Julie, you have misunderstoond me, My point had nothing to do with already established relationships.

My point was that people who do or do not have girlfriends or boyfriends should not worry, there is nothign wrong if you do not have a partner and equally there is nothing wrong if you do. i have seen so many people beat themselves up over these topic, they should not suffer as realistically there are not rules that say you must have a partner.

To me a real relationship is based on mutual respect an understanding.
Looks and personality may be the initial attracton agent but after word if mutual respect and understanding do not develop the relationship becomes like a house built on ice, sooner or later the ice will melt and the house will come crumbleing down.

The message I was trying to get accross in my abouve post is that people should try to be happy weather they are in or out of a relationship and do not waste too much time worrying and suffering over it, as the old saying goes, if it is ment to happen, it is ment to happen.

Kirk.

Well Kirk dear, if that was your intention then your wording and/or emphasis gave it a different slant because that was not the message MBS or I got from it.

But that's OK, we weren't beating you up about it or anything, just stating that for some people that is an important goal for them.

But then isn't that some part of AS, not being able to convey our intended meanings sometimes and being misunderstood? And really, that is an important part of what this board is all about...forgiving others for those little things and pointing out that some re-phrasing would convey a different meaning.

No harm Kirk, just one of those little communication things.