Damn, I got too many irons in the fire these days, so to speak.
That would be a great resource, wouldn't it? And it really IS a crackable code; they're not as complicated as they seem at first.

It's about gestures like this, but they mean so much to them. It's a tangible feeling for them of respect, appreciation, and so forth. It may not be the system I'd set up if I ran things, but there are some beneficial and reciprocal aspects to it. Main thing is that there is a need for such actions to be offered, for a feeling of security and sense of the world, I think.
An Aspie may not need that, but it's an ok system once you know it. You give people things or your time, and they do the same when you don't expect it, either.
You may not want a shoulder to cry on when a grandmother leaves you (or maybe you do), but the offer to help with arrangements surely is appreciated. The acts of consideration then build on each other, to where when your car won't start, your neighbor is happy to give you a ride to work since you just did the same a month ago. There's a certain logic in that part....