I believe that the standard height for doors in the US is 6'8". To my mind, this makes anyone 6'9" diagosable as "tall" and in need of special accomodations. Not that being 6'9" is anything to be ashamed of or anything, just that it creates unusual problems, due in part to the nature of the society.

That's how I regard AS. To some extent the problems it causes are probably inevitable - how can I blame NTs for the heat that sometimes develops in my discussions with v-dog? To some extent, the problems exist because of the way our society operates, with rigid government-set standards of behavior.

I think there are two paths to self-diagnosis:

1) Easy to self diagnois if you are an easily manipulated individual who wants nothing more than to label themselves.

2) Much harder to self diagnois if you sincerely are trying to get to the root cause of a life of questions. Because if you are sincere about it you are going to dig, read, do research, double check, rinse repeat before coming to a conclusion.

In effect the individual who is truly researched probably ends up with more knowledge about the condition and what it entails and how to cope than they would ever get from a professional.

I think just like everything else don't lump the self-diagnoised and the profesionally diagnosised into cut and dried classifications because there are always variations and grey areas.

It might also be fair to say that those same two have equivalents in professionally diagnosed, albeit not identical.
1) Accept diagnosis because you want nothing more than to have a label to use and blame.
2) Trying to get to the root cause of a life of questions...

Frankly, I suspect the true aspie will almost invariably take #2 in this, or the previous post, and the NT who is just awkward will chose #1 in order to 'fit in' even if the fit is a rather difficult one.